If she looks like she has had a bad day at work and is discussing it with friends at the pub, she's probably not in the best frame of mind to be approached.
Your chances are higher at a cocktail party or a networking function where she is more receptive to meeting people.
Or approach her when she is clearly taking it easy, such as when she's browsing in a book store or art gallery.
And she will probably be friendlier if she's alone when you approach her.
WHOSE LINE IS IT?
No girl actually appreciates being told her dad must be a thief because he stole the stars and put them in her eyes. Cheesy pick-up lines do not work.
And if you plan to charm her by saying how beautiful she is, chances are, to an attractive lady who gets hit on 10 times a day, you will come across as unoriginal and insincere.
Instead, try asking a question which engages her in natural conversation. Be flexible to adapt that conversation starter to the situation. At a seminar, for example, you could ask her what she thought of the speaker and progress from there.
PLAY DATE
A gal isn't attracted to a guy just because she is on a dinner date with him. The emotional and physical exchanges that happen during the date are what make it a success.
Having a playful, relaxed attitude is the best dating attitude to have, to make her more receptive. You can achieve this by keeping the conversation light and humorous.
BAR FLY
Most men assume bars are the best place to meet women. But if you're looking to find a life partner and not just a one-night stand, look beyond nightspots and inebriated girls to locations like a bus stop, library or restaurant. Few women take men they meet at bars very seriously.
This article was first published in Urban, The Straits Times on May 10, 2007.
